Today’s grandparents have more opportunities than ever to play an active role in their grandchildren’s lives—even when miles separate them. Video chats, shared photo albums, online games, and virtual story time make staying connected easier than ever. The goal isn’t to master every new app—it’s to use technology to strengthen the love, wisdom, and family traditions that only grandparents can provide.

Why Grandparents Matter More Than Ever

Research shows that strong relationships between grandparents and grandchildren benefit both generations. Grandchildren often gain emotional support, wisdom, and a stronger sense of family history. Grandparents, in turn, frequently experience greater happiness, purpose, and mental well-being.

According to Generations United, close intergenerational relationships can improve children’s emotional resilience while helping older adults stay socially connected and engaged.

Embrace Technology—Even If It Feels Intimidating

You don’t have to become a technology expert overnight. Learning just a few digital tools can dramatically improve communication.

Try using:

  • FaceTime (Apple Devices) – Make video and audio calls with family using your iPhone, iPad, or Mac. Android Users cannot start the call or download the app but a  family member can send a web link to use this feature.
  • Zoom – Great for family gatherings, virtual birthday parties, and longer video chats. 
  • Google Meet – Great for family gatherings, virtual birthday parties, and longer video chats. 
  • WhatsApp video calls – Make free video calls, voice calls, and send messages or photos from your smartphone. 
  • Facebook Messenger – Easily send messages or make video calls with family members who use Facebook. 
  • Apple Shared Photo Albums – Share family photos and videos privately with loved ones.
  • Google Photos – Store, organize, and share photos with family members, regardless of what device they use.

Instead of waiting for birthdays or holidays, schedule a weekly “Grandparent Date” online. Even a 15-minute video call can become something everyone looks forward to.

Fun Ideas During Video Chats

  • Read bedtime stories
  • Help with homework
  • Watch a movie together
  • Bake the same recipe in separate kitchens
  • Play online games
  • Do crafts together
  • Practice spelling words
  • Tell family stories

Take an Interest in Their Digital World

Today’s children communicate differently than previous generations. They share photos, videos, and short Reels, follow friends and family on some of the sites below:

  • YouTube – Watch videos about hobbies, music, sports, learning, and entertainment.
  • Roblox – Play games, build virtual worlds, and connect with friends.
  • Minecraft – Build, explore, and solve challenges in a creative virtual world.
  • TikTok – Watch and create short videos featuring music, comedy, recipes, and trends.
  • Snapchat – Share photos, videos, and messages that disappear after they’re viewed.
  • Instagram – Share photos, videos, Stories, and Reels with friends and family.
  • Discord – Chat by text, voice, or video with friends and online communities.

Play Together Online

Playing games together is one of the easiest ways to connect with grandchildren, especially if you live far apart. Online games encourage teamwork, conversation, problem-solving, and plenty of laughter. You don’t have to be an expert gamer—your grandkids will likely enjoy teaching you how to play!

Family-Friendly Games to Enjoy Together

  • Minecraft – A creative building game where players explore, build, and work together to create entire worlds. It’s a favorite for children and teens and encourages imagination and teamwork.
    Learn more: https://www.minecraft.net
  • Mario Kart – Nintendo’s fast-paced racing game is easy to learn and fun for all ages. Grandparents and grandkids can race against each other or compete on the same team.
    Learn more: https://mariokart8.nintendo.com
  • Animal Crossing: New Horizons – Build your own island paradise, decorate homes, collect items, and visit each other’s islands. The relaxed pace makes it especially enjoyable for players of all ages.
    Learn more: https://www.animal-crossing.com/new-horizons/
  • Jackbox Games – A collection of party games that only requires one person to own the game. Everyone else joins using a smartphone or tablet, making it perfect for family gatherings and virtual game nights.
    Learn more: https://www.jackboxgames.com
  • Words With Friends – A digital word game similar to Scrabble that lets you play at your own pace. It’s an excellent way to keep your mind active while staying in touch through friendly competition.
    Learn more: https://www.wordswithfriends.com
  • Chess.com – Play chess together from anywhere while chatting online. Whether you’re teaching a grandchild the basics or learning together, chess helps develop critical thinking and strategic skills.
    Learn more: https://www.chess.com

Don’t Worry About Being a Beginner

If you’ve never played any of these games, don’t let that stop you. Most grandchildren love introducing their grandparents to their favorite activities. Let them be your teacher—you’ll not only learn something new, but you’ll also create shared memories and strengthen your relationship in the process.

You don’t need to use every platform yourself, but asking questions shows genuine interest. Being curious instead of critical helps build trust. One of the easiest ways to connect is by joining your grandchildren in an activity they already enjoy—playing a game together.

Try asking:

  • What’s your favorite game?
  • Can you show me how it works?
  • What makes this YouTuber funny?
  • What music are you listening to?

For guidance on understanding children’s technology use, visit the American Academy of Pediatrics’ Family Media

Preserve Your Family’s Legacy Together

Technology also makes preserving family memories easier. Apps like StoryCorps allow families to preserve meaningful conversations for future generations.

Consider creating:

  • Digital photo albums
  • Family recipe collections
  • Video interviews
  • Recorded bedtime stories
  • Family history videos
  • Holiday memory books

A Simple Text Can Mean More Than You Think

Teenagers may not always answer phone calls—but many will respond to a simple text. Short, encouraging messages remind grandchildren you’re thinking of them without feeling intrusive. Some suggestions could include:

  • “Good luck on your test today!”
  • “Thinking about you.”
  • “I’m proud of you.”
  • “How did your soccer game go?”
  • “Can you send me a picture of your latest project?”

Teach Them Something Only You Know

One of the greatest gifts grandparents offer is life experience. Record these lessons on video so they become lasting family treasures. Some suggestions could include:

  • Gardening
  • Sewing
  • Woodworking
  • Fishing
  • Family recipes
  • Genealogy
  • Photography
  • Budgeting
  • Home repairs

Respect Their Online Privacy

Just as important as connecting digitally is respecting boundaries. The National Cybersecurity Alliance offers practical advice for families on protecting privacy online.

Before posting photos of grandchildren online:

  • Ask parents for permission.
  • Respect family privacy rules.
  • Avoid sharing personal information such as schools, schedules, or locations.
  • Keep social media conversations positive.

Create Screen-Free Traditions Too

Technology should enhance—not replace—in-person memories. Many grandchildren remember simple traditions far more than expensive gifts.

When you’re together:

  • Bake cookies
  • Visit parks
  • Go fishing
  • Build puzzles
  • Read books
  • Plant a garden
  • Visit museums
  • Take nature walks
  • Volunteer together

Keep Learning Together

Children love teaching adults something new. Meanwhile, you can teach them practical life skills they’ve never learned in school. Learning becomes a two-way relationship.

Ask them to show you:

  • How to use a new app
  • Their favorite game
  • Photo editing
  • Music playlists
  • New technology

The Health Benefits of Staying Connected

Spending time with your grandchildren isn’t just good for them—it can also benefit your own health and well-being. Research suggests that maintaining strong social connections may help reduce feelings of loneliness, improve mood, and support healthy brain function as we age. Whether you’re sharing family stories, solving a puzzle together, playing an online game, or simply catching up over a video call, these meaningful interactions help keep your mind active and your relationships strong.

The National Institute on Aging offers additional information about how staying socially connected supports healthy aging.

It’s the Little Moments That Matter Most

You don’t have to text every day, become a social media expert, or master every new app to be an amazing grandparent. What matters most is showing up consistently and letting your grandchildren know they are loved.

The grandparents children remember are the ones who:

  • Listen without judgment.
  • Celebrate birthdays, achievements, and everyday milestones.
  • Show genuine interest in their hobbies and passions.
  • Share family stories and traditions.
  • Encourage their dreams and build their confidence.
  • Make time for them—whether in person or online.

At its heart, grandparenting has never been about keeping up with technology—it’s about showing up with love. Whether you’re sending a quick text, reading a bedtime story over FaceTime, sharing treasured family recipes, or learning Minecraft from your grandchild, every interaction strengthens your relationship. The apps and devices will continue to change, but your love, encouragement, and presence are what your grandchildren will remember for a lifetime.

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